Today we celebrate our anniversary. How in the world did 21 years fly by so fast? I I feel like it was just yesterday that two silly teenagers joined together in marriage.
As I reflect over the past 21 years, I have to say, next to giving my life to Jesus, marrying Mark was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Marrying him has also refined me more than anything else.
You see, as a 19 year old bride, I really didn’t know the first thing about being a wife. I was selfish, manipulative, and strong-willed. I thought I knew it all. (Ha! I still have days like that!) I thought my job was to give 50% and he would give 50%. I thought it was my job to show him how to lead our family. Sounds like he got himself a real winner, doesn’t it?
Well, you know what happened? The Lord got a hold of me. He started redefining my view of marriage and redefining my view of what a wife should look like. He started changing ME!
I didn’t need to be the leader of our family. Mark was quite capable. I learned that marriage isn’t about giving 50/50 at all. My job was to give 100%. I was to do everything as unto the Lord. The Lord taught me how to be a suitable helper to my husband. And you guess what? Mark needed a suitable helper. (Gen. 2:18) He was designed that way. My focus was first to be of service to my husband, then my kids, then others. Finding my role as Mark’s wife has brought me more joy than I could have ever imagined.
There is so much I’ve learned over the past 21 years and I’m still learning. I could write pages …but I’ll save that for another post.
Ever since our daughters were little, we started praying for their future husbands. Praying the young men would keep their heart pure and love the Lord with all his heart. We would pray their parents would prepare them to be Godly men and Godly husbands.
As I pray for their future spouses, I pray they will marry someone just like their daddy. I pray they will be prepared to be a Godly wife from the first day of their marriage; a suitable helper for their husband.
One day when our daughters marry, I hope they look over our marriage and see that we’ve tried to model what marriage is suppose to look like. I hope the girls see how much we we love each other, how we seek forgiveness from one other, how we laugh together, how we cry together, how we pray together, how we find hobbies to enjoy together and how our lives just fit together. I pray they will see that we constantly pursue each other. We continually work at improving our marriage. We try hard not to take each other for granted. But most importantly I hope they see how we’ve put Jesus at the center of our marriage.
You amaze me every single day. I thank God for you. Thank you for being the man you are. You make it so easy to be your wife. I’m a better person because of you. You complete me.
Thank you for loving me so well. I love the life we share together. I wouldn’t want to walk this journey with anyone else!
Looking forward to the next 21+ years.
i love you!
p.s. I think you are smokin’ hot.
p.s.s. I really, really love you.