Mark and I celebrated our anniversary this month. We had an entire weekend with no kids! We started off our anniversary morning with a 4 mile run. Then we went to see the musical, Cinderella. We absolutely LOVED it. We finished off the day with dinner at our favorite restaurant. It was truly an amazing day. We stayed in town and wanted something low key just so we could re-connect. I had been out of town and Mark has been working long days so this was a perfect time to just focus on each other.
Our anniversary is always a good time for me to reflect over my marriage and set new goals for our marriage. Marriage has definitely made me a better person and has drawn me closer to the Lord…and honestly I love being married to Mark.
I was 19 and Mark was 3 days shy from turning 19 when we married. It feels like a lifetime ago but then again it feels like it was yesterday. Twenty-three years later, we have a daughter who has graduated from college, one married and one entering high school. Without sounding cliche’, God has certainly been good to us.
When I look back over our 23 years of marriage, I’ve learned so much. One of my biggest lessons that I learned is that marriage is worth the work. I wish I would have known that from day one. I think I entered marriage with a fantasy that we would just live “happily ever after.” I don’t think I really knew how much work it would be…how I would need to die to self….how I needed to change myself first in order to be a good wife to Mark. I didn’t really know what a gift marriage was and that it would need to be protected. I didn’t know that Mark’s job wasn’t to complete me. I didn’t realize that I wasn’t my husband’s Holy Spirit and I thought I knew best how to lead our family. I, also, thought we could do this alone.
Twenty-three years later, I know the truth. I know that a healthy marriage is work…and it is worth the work! I know that true oneness is a gift from the Lord and it should be cherished. I know that only Christ will make me whole and Mark will complement me, but not complete me. I know that a husband who pursues his wife daily is a rare find and I need to love him well. I know Mark will lead our family better than I could have imagined and the best gift I can give him is prayer. I know that all those times I woke up in the middle of the night and prayed for my husband mattered and the Lord heard them all. I know that our marriage has nothing to do with us but only by His mercy and grace are we able to celebrate 23 years of marriage. I know that we can’t do this alone and that Christ must be the center of our marriage. I know only Christ can take our ashes and make something beautiful. I know that marrying that cute boy of 18 will be one of the best decisions you will ever make.
“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine”
Song of Solomon 6:3
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